Maintaining friendship is Crucial; Best Friends Take Time.

In fact, probably the quickest way to end a friendship is to neglect it and sever contact.

Yet it is hard to make time in a busy day and busy life to maintain our friends. But you don't have to have hours to spare to maintain a friendship.

Instead try the following to keep from neglecting your friends:

• Send frequent email. Email is a boon for a quick note.
• Call once a week. Telephone calls do not take long.
• Keep in touch through brief messages left on answering machines.
• Send an occasional card. Funny and/or appropriate cards take minutes to choose and address.
• Exercise together. We all have to exercise. It is more fun with a friend, plus, there is no better place for talking than a walk in the park.
• Clean house together. This is another must do and two makes cleaning fun instead of boring.
• Send pictures. A picture is still worth a thousand words.
• Go to lunch at least once a month. More often would be better.

Follow the advice of Victoria Rayner, author of The Survival Guide for Today's Career Woman:

• Be a good listener; refrain from offering advice or moralizing.
• Respect your friend's point of view. Different personalities can complement each other; it isn't always necessary to see eye to eye.
• Never betray a trust. Trust, when violated, can ruin even the best friendship.
• Support and praise your friends; ignore their failures and imperfections.
• Never resent a friend's success. Instead, strive to admire her achievements.

Flexibility is always important for maintaining friendships. Be understanding when your friend has a last minute change in plans. Learn to accept "I'm sorry to cancel, but we will have another time together Sunday."

When paths begin to separate (you are married; he isn't or you have a baby; she is still childless) at forks in the road of life, that is the most important time of all to stay in touch with friends.

When there is conflict, it must be resolved for friendship to continue. Confrontation is one way to resolve conflict. Talking it out is another.

A cooling-off period is sometimes necessary when conflict has occurred. Once you reinitiate conflict, it may not even be necessary to discuss the conflict.

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I know alot of things happened during the m'sia trip. No one seem to be happy. Come of think of it, it had been 4 years plus since the start of our friendship in poly.

We been through difficult assignment tgt, we help each other during assignment. We laugh, eat, talk crap, watch movie, play game, celebrating birthday... ... etc.

We stay tgt as a group for 3 years, try v hard to be in the same class. First group to pack bag and go home. The most noisy group in ICT. The moment u heard noise, they know our group is coming. Our group is best in pestering teacher on helping in assignment. Remember the incident on Mr Lai sao bin, the moment he saw our group, he run all the way to the lift.

I will always remember, the hardship i been through during my attachment. It becos of u people, i could stay strong during the 4 difficult suffering month. The card of different cartoon faces really touch my heart. Wq got notice tt i had tears in the eye when i received tt lovely card w all the zhu fu. Not becos of u people listening to my problem, i would have quit the stupid attachment. Not becos of u people, getting helps for me during the 4 month i would not had success. I remember karen, finding programming book for me. Meiteng encourage me. ccude laugh w me. Jeremy help solve my programming code. lala, wq, ahchee accompany me... ... etc

This is what make us a group. I believe we all have our own story to build up this group. I really want everyone to stay in the group happily. I will try my best to let the group increase not decrease in member.

It just my personal comment, no offense to anyone:

A holiday trip is mend to bound us stronger. Since lala didn't like ppl to hit him, than we respect his point of view. Don't hit him from now on. Lala i promise not to hit you, i will sayang you, but i can't guarantee u won't kana hit by sir =X.

Mt, i know i scolded you at the KL traffic light there, on the way to KFC. I am sorry for not being sensitive enough toward yr feeling. I just want you to know that, i scold you becos i care for you. I am worry if u are to go shopping alone at KL, u will got lost. There are so many danger out there, i worried u will kana kipnap or worst de... That why i shout at u, and insist yk to go w u if u really want to shop. Hope you could understand.

As for the arcarde incident. Thinking in yr point of view, i know u are sad that u try so hard but didn't win anything. I could understand yr feeling, no one will feel nice winning nothing. But as friends, hoping to make you feel better, all we all could do is to accumulate the point to exchange the cute little bear for you. But this method don't works, u got more sad.

kaka and ahchee went to yr room to an wei you. But it doesn't wk too. Mt let thinks in kaka or ahchee position. Will you also feel sad when yr friends are sad too. (Paiseh i was bathing in process when tt happen)

So they sadly they went back to their room. And we left with the last choice. Letting you to cool off. But the problem is, we don't know when yr feeling got better. And tt explain the weirdness. Hope u could understand. I know u give up talking seeing our weird face. Had u wonder why is tt so? It becos, we don't know tt u are feeling ok le ma? When i saw u the 2nd day at genting, yr eye still swollen de. I assume you are still sad over the arcarde things. For me, it seem tt it carry on the KL. This is what i thinks. Really no offense. But maybe from yr point of view, it our weirdness that making u give up in talking.

See it an misunderstand over our thinking. Don't let this cut down the number in our group. I believe as long we clear it out, everything can be solve. I can't say we could be like we were before, but i can chop tt we will build a more stable and strong friendship knowing each other like and dislike. Respect each other thinking, understand and bao rong each other differences.

hua-- sign off.